It can often be believed that “If I could only find someone”, “If I were only married,” then I wouldn’t be lonely anymore. I remember believing this myth myself. Cognitively I knew it was not true, but deep down I did believe –or hope- that if I could only [...]
more...Blog Topic: Counseling
Myths of Relationships #1: Finding a mate will cure my loneliness
The Importance of Seeing the Good and the Bad
In this post I want to explore one of the areas that Henry Cloud dives into in his book, Changes that Heal, which I’m going to call seeing both the good and the bad. I find this subject to be invaluable.
Before we dive into it, I want to share a story about [...]
more...The Importance of True Testimony with Dale Ryan
The Burner is sorry that he somehow missed this. The Work of the People interviewed Fuller professor and Director of the Institute for Recovery Ministry Dale Ryan about “telling the truth” when speaking about the Christian life/journey. Note the story Ryan tells about his friend who loved the church but felt it was too nice for [...]
more...Sundance Movie Review: TYRANNOSAUR
In some ways the film Tyrannosaur is true to its namesake: devastating, powerful and irrevocably impacting. Both characters: Joseph (Peter Mullan), and Hannah (Olivia Colman) deliver compelling and fierce depictions of disappointment and loss. When they are together they find tenderness and safety but slowly, like the tide, are pulled back into [...]
more...On Pastoral Care and Counseling by Dr. Siang-Yang Tan
As a pastor myself, I am aware of the many needs that our congregations have as we serve them as shepherds of God’s flock( see 1 Peter 5:2-4). A crucial ministry that we pastors have is to provide loving and wise pastoral care and counseling to those who may be hurting and struggling in our [...]
more...Motivation Monday: Mom’s Lessons
The Burner grew up in a Christian household, yet did not always treat other family members with the most Christ-like attitude. The Burner’s Mother was always quick with one of two verses:
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. –Ephesians 4:32
Do everything without complaining or [...]
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